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Friday 30 October 2009

Aurat Wanita-

AURAT WANITA — Dari Firman Allah SWT dan hadis-hadis Nabi SAW

1. Bulu kening — Menurut Bukhari, "Rasullulah melaknat perempuan yang mencukur atau menipiskan bulu kening atau meminta supaya dicukurkan bulu kening." Riwayat Abu Daud Fi Fathil Bari.

2. Kaki (tumit kaki) —"Dan janganlah mereka (perempuan) membentakkan kaki (atau mengangkatnya) agar diketahui perhiasan yang mereka sembunyikan." An-Nur: 31.
Keterangan: Menampakkan kaki dan menghayunkan/melenggokkan badan mengikut hentakan kaki.

3. Wangian — "Siapa sahaja wanita yang memakai wangi-wangian kemudian melewati suatu kaum supaya mereka itu mencium baunya, maka wanita itu telah dianggap melakukan zina dan tiap-tiap mata ada zina." Riwayat Nasaii, Ibn Khuzaimah dan Hibban.

4. Dada — "Hendaklah mereka (perempuan) melabuhkan kain tudung hingga menutupi dada-dada mereka. "An-Nur : 31

5. Gigi — "Rasullulah melaknat perempuan yang mengikir gigi atau meminta supaya dikikirkan giginya. "Riwayat At-Thabrani, "Dilaknat perempuan yang menjarangkan giginya supaya menjadi cantik, yang merubah ciptaan Allah". Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim.

6. Muka dan leher — "Dan tinggallah kamu (perempuan) di rumah kamu dan janganlah kamu menampakkan perhiasan mu seperti orang jahilliah yang dahulu." Keterangan: Bersolek (make-up) dan menurut Maqatil sengaja membiarkan ikatan tudung yang menampakkan leher seperti orang Jahilliyah.
7. Muka dan Tangan — "Asma Binte Abu Bakar telah menemui Rasullulah dengan memakai pakaian yang tipis. Sabda Rasullulah: Wahai Asma! Sesungguhnya seorang gadis yang telah berhaid tidak boleh baginya menzahirkan anggota badan kecuali pergelangan tangan dan wajah saja." Riwayat Muslim dan Bukhari.

8. Tangan — "Sesungguhnya kepala yang ditusuk dengan besi itu lebih baik daripada menyentuh kaum yang bukan sejenis yang tidak halal baginya". Riwayat At Tabrani dan Baihaqi.

9. Mata – "Dan katakanlah kepada perempuan mukmin hendaklah mereka menundukkan sebahagian dari pemandangannya." An Nur : 31. Sabda Nabi SAW, “Jangan sampai pandangan yang satu mengikuti pandangan lainnya. Kamu hanya boleh pandangan yang pertama, pandangan seterusnya tidak dibenarkan." Riwayat Ahmad, Abu Daud dan Tirmidzi.

10. Mulut (suara) - "Janganlah perempuan-perempuan itu terlalu lunak dalam berbicara sehingga berkeinginan orang yang ada perasaan serong dalam hatinya, tetapi ucapkanlah perkataan-perkataan yang baik." Al Ahzab: 32. Sabda SAW, "Sesungguhnya akan ada umat ku yang minum arak yang mereka namakan dengan yang lain, iaitu kepala mereka dilalaikan oleh bunyi-bunyian (muzik) dan penyanyi perempuan, maka Allah akan tenggelamkan mereka itu dalam bumi." Riwayat Ibn Majah.

11. Kemaluan - “Dan katakanlah kepada perempuan-perempuan mukmin, hendaklah mereka menundukkan pandangan mereka dan menjaga kehormatan mereka. " An Nur : 31.

"Apabila seorang perempuan itu sembahyang lima waktu, puasa di bulan Ramadhan, menjaga kehormatannya dan mentaati suaminya, maka masuklah ia ke dalam syurga daripada pintu-pintu yang ia kehendakinya." Riwayat Al Bazzar. "Tiada seorang perempuan pun yang membuka pakaiannya bukan di rumah suaminya, melainkan dia telah membinasakan tabir antaranya dengan Allah." Riwayat Tirmidzi, Abu Daud dan Ibn Majah.

12. Pakaian — "Barangsiapa memakai pakaian yang berlebih-lebihan, maka Allah akan memberikan pakaian kehinaan di hari akhirat nanti." Riwayat Ahmad, Abu Daud, An Nasaii dan Ibn Majah.

"Sesungguhnya sebilangan ahli neraka ialah perempuan-perempuan yang berpakaian tapi telanjang yang condong pada maksiat dan menarik orang lain untuk melakukan maksiat. Mereka tidak akan masuk syurga dan tidak akan mencium baunya." Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim. Keterangan: Wanita yang berpakaian tipis/jarang, ketat/ membentuk dan berbelah/membuka bahagian-bahagian tertentu."Hai nabi-nabi katakanlah kepada isteri-isterimu, anak perempuan mu dan isteri-isteri orang mukmin, hendaklah mereka memakai baju jilbab (baju labuh dan longgar) yang demikian itu supaya mereka mudah dikenali. Lantaran itu mereka tidak diganggu. Allah maha pengampun lagi maha penyayang." Al Ahzab : 59.

13. Rambut — "Wahai anakku Fatimah! Adapun perempuan-perempuan yang akan digantung rambutnya hingga mendidih otaknya dalam neraka adalah mereka itu di dunia tidak mahu menutup rambutnya daripada dilihat oleh lelaki yang bukan mahramnya." Riwayat Bukhari dan Muslim.

Thursday 29 October 2009

13 Hal Yang Disukai Pria Dari Wanita

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Cinta adalah fitrah manusia. Cinta juga salah satu bentuk kesempurnaan penciptaan yang Allah berikan kepada manusia. Allah menghiasi hati manusia dengan perasaan cinta pada banyak hal. Salah satunya cinta seorang lelaki kepada seorang wanita, demikian juga sebaliknya.

Rasa cinta bisa menjadi anugerah jika luapkan sesuai dengan bingkai nilai-nilai ilahiyah. Namun, perasaan cinta dapat membawa manusia ke jurang kenistaan bila diumbar demi kesenangan semata dan dikendalikan nafsu liar.

Islam sebagai syariat yang sempurna, memberi koridor bagi penyaluran fitrah ini. Apalagi cinta yang kuat adalah salah satu energi yang bisa melanggengkan hubungan seorang pria dan wanita dalam mengarungi kehidupan rumah tangga. Karena itu, seorang pria shalih tidak asal dapat dalam memilih wanita untuk dijadikan pendamping hidupnya.

Ada banyak faktor yang bisa menjadi sebab munculnya rasa cinta seorang pria kepada wanita untuk diperistri. Setidak-tidaknya seperti di bawah ini.

1. Karena akidahnya yang Shahih

Keluarga adalah salah satu benteng akidah. Sebagai benteng akidah, keluarga harus benar-benar kokoh dan tidak bisa ditembus. Jika rapuh, maka rusaklah segala-galanya dan seluruh anggota keluarga tidak mungkin selamat dunia-akhirat. Dan faktor penting yang bisa membantu seorang lelaki menjaga kekokohan benteng rumah tangganya adalah istri shalihah yang berakidah shahih serta paham betul akan peran dan fungsinya sebagai madrasah bagi calon pemimpin umat generasi mendatang.

Allah menekankah hal ini dalam firmanNya, “Dan janganlah kamu menikahi wanita-wanita musyrik, sebelum mereka beriman. Sesungguhnya wanita budak yang mukmin lebih baik dari wanita musyrik, walaupun dia menarik hatimu. Dan janganlah kamu menikahkan orang-orang musyrik (dengan wanita-wanita mukmin) sebelum mereka beriman. Sesungguhnya budak yang mukmin lebih baik dari orang musyrik, walaupun dia menarik hatimu. Mereka mengajak ke neraka, sedang Allah mengajak ke surga dan ampunan dengan izin-Nya. Dan Allah menerangkan ayat-ayat-Nya (perintah-perintah-Nya) kepada manusia supaya mereka mengambil pelajaran.” (Al-Baqarah: 221)

2. Karena paham agama dan mengamalkannya

Ada banyak hal yang membuat seorang lelaki mencintai wanita. Ada yang karena kemolekannya semata. Ada juga karena status sosialnya. Tidak sedikit lelaki menikahi wanita karena wanita itu kaya. Tapi, kata Rasulullah yang beruntung adalah lelaki yang mendapatkan wanita yang faqih dalam urusan agamanya. Itulah wanita dambaan yang lelaki shalih.

Dari Abu Hurairah, Rasulullah saw. bersabda, “Wanita dinikahi karena empat perkara: karena hartanya, keturunannya, kecantikannya, dan agamanya. Maka, ambillah wanita yang memiliki agama (wanita shalihah), kamu akan beruntung.” (Bukhari dan Muslim)

Rasulullah saw. juga menegaskan, “Dunia adalah perhiasan, dan perhiasan dunia yang paling baik adalah wanita yang shalihah.” (Muslim, Ibnu Majah, dan Nasa’i).

Jadi, hanya lelaki yang tidak berakal yang tidak mencintai wanita shalihah.

3. Dari keturunan yang baik

Rasulullah saw. mewanti-wanti kaum lelaki yang shalih untuk tidak asal menikahi wanita. “Jauhilah rumput hijau sampah!” Mereka bertanya, “Apakah rumput hijau sampah itu, ya Rasulullah?” Nabi menjawab, “Wanita yang baik tetapi tinggal di tempat yang buruk.” (Daruquthni, Askari, dan Ibnu ‘Adi)

Karena itu Rasulullah saw. memberi tuntunan kepada kaum lelaki yang beriman untuk selektif dalam mencari istri. Bukan saja harus mencari wanita yang tinggal di tempat yang baik, tapi juga yang punya paman dan saudara-saudara yang baik kualitasnya. “Pilihlah yang terbaik untuk nutfah-nutfah kalian, dan nikahilah orang-orang yang sepadan (wanita-wanita) dan nikahilah (wanita-wanitamu) kepada mereka (laki-laki yang sepadan),” kata Rasulullah. (Ibnu Majah, Daruquthni, Hakim, dan Baihaqi).

“Carilah tempat-tempat yang cukup baik untuk benih kamu, karena seorang lelaki itu mungkin menyerupai paman-pamannya,” begitu perintah Rasulullah saw. lagi. “Nikahilah di dalam “kamar” yang shalih, karena perangai orang tua (keturunan) itu menurun kepada anak.” (Ibnu ‘Adi)

Karena itu, Utsman bin Abi Al-’Ash Ats-Tsaqafi menasihati anak-anaknya agar memilih benih yang baik dan menghindari keturunan yang jelek. “Wahai anakku, orang menikah itu laksana orang menanam. Karena itu hendaklah seseorang melihat dulu tempat penanamannya. Keturunan yang jelek itu jarang sekali melahirkan (anak), maka pilihlah yang baik meskipun agak lama.”

4. Masih gadis

Siapapun tahu, gadis yang belum pernah dinikahi masih punya sifat-sifat alami seorang wanita. Penuh rasa malu, manis dalam berbahasa dan bertutur, manja, takut berbuat khianat, dan tidak pernah ada ikatan perasaan dalam hatinya. Cinta dari seorang gadis lebih murni karena tidak pernah dibagi dengan orang lain, kecuali suaminya.

Karena itu, Rasulullah saw. menganjurkan menikah dengan gadis. “Hendaklah kalian menikah dengan gadis, karena mereka lebih manis tutur katanya, lebih mudah mempunyai keturunan, lebih sedikit kamarnya dan lebih mudah menerima yang sedikit,” begitu sabda Rasulullah yang diriwayatkan oleh Ibnu Majah dan Baihaqi.

Tentang hal ini A’isyah pernah menanyakan langsung ke Rasulullah saw. “Ya Rasulullah, bagaimana pendapatmu jika engkau turun di sebuah lembah lalu pada lembah itu ada pohon yang belum pernah digembalai, dan ada pula pohon yang sudah pernah digembalai; di manakah engkau akan menggembalakan untamu?” Nabi menjawab, “Pada yang belum pernah digembalai.” Lalu A’isyah berkata, “Itulah aku.”

Menikahi gadis perawan akan melahirkan cinta yang kuat dan mengukuhkan pertahanan dan kesucian. Namun, dalam kondisi tertentu menikahi janda kadang lebih baik daripada menikahi seorang gadis. Ini terjadi pada kasus seorang sahabat bernama Jabir.

Rasulullah saw. sepulang dari Perang Dzat al-Riqa bertanya Jabir, “Ya Jabir, apakah engkau sudah menikah?” Jabir menjawab, “Sudah, ya Rasulullah.” Beliau bertanya, “Janda atau perawan?” Jabir menjawab, “Janda.” Beliau bersabda, “Kenapa tidak gadis yang engkau dapat saling mesra bersamanya?” Jabir menjawab, “Ya Rasulullah, sesungguhnya ayahku telah gugur di medan Uhud dan meninggalkan tujuh anak perempuan. Karena itu aku menikahi wanita yang dapat mengurus mereka.” Nabi bersabda, “Engkau benar, insya Allah.”

5. Sehat jasmani dan penyayang

Sahabat Ma’qal bin Yasar berkata, “Seorang lelaki datang menghadap Nabi saw. seraya berkata, “Sesungguhnya aku mendapati seorang wanita yang baik dan cantik, namun ia tidak bisa melahirkan. Apa sebaiknya aku menikahinya?” Beliau menjawab, “Jangan.” Selanjutnya ia pun menghadap Nabi saw. untuk kedua kalinya, dan ternyata Nabi saw. tetap mencegahnya. Kemudian ia pun datang untuk ketiga kalinya, lalu Nabi saw. bersabda, “Nikahilah wanita yang banyak anak, karena sesungguhnya aku akan membanggakan banyaknya jumlah kalian di hadapan umat-umat lain.” (Abu Dawud dan Nasa’i).

Karena itu, Rasulullah menegaskan, “Nikahilah wanita-wanita yang subur dan penyayang. Karena sesungguhnya aku bangga dengan banyaknya kalian dari umat lain.” (Abu Daud dan An-Nasa’i)

6. Berakhlak mulia

Abu Hasan Al-Mawardi dalam Kitab Nasihat Al-Muluk mengutip perkataan Umar bin Khattab tentang memilih istri baik merupakan hak anak atas ayahnya, “Hak seorang anak yang pertama-tama adalah mendapatkan seorang ibu yang sesuai dengan pilihannya, memilih wanita yang akan melahirkannya. Yaitu seorang wanita yang mempunyai kecantikan, mulia, beragama, menjaga kesuciannya, pandai mengatur urusan rumah tangga, berakhlak mulia, mempunyai mentalitas yang baik dan sempurna serta mematuhi suaminya dalam segala keadaan.”

7. Lemah-lembut

Imam Ahmad meriwayatkan hadits dari A’isyah r.a. bahwa Rasulullah saw. bersabda, “Wahai A’isyah, bersikap lemah lembutlah, karena sesungguhnya Allah itu jika menghendaki kebaikan kepada sebuah keluarga, maka Allah menunjukkan mereka kepada sifat lembah lembut ini.” Dalam riwayat lain disebutkan, “Jika Allah menghendaki suatu kebaikan pada sebuah keluarga, maka Allah memasukkan sifat lemah lembut ke dalam diri mereka.”

8. Menyejukkan pandangan

Rasulullah saw. bersabda, “Tidakkah mau aku kabarkan kepada kalian tentang sesuatu yang paling baik dari seorang wanita? (Yaitu) wanita shalihah adalah wanita yang jika dilihat oleh suaminya menyenangkan, jika diperintah ia mentaatinya, dan jika suaminya meninggalkannya ia menjaga diri dan harta suaminya.” (Abu daud dan An-Nasa’i)

“Sesungguhnya sebaik-baik wanitamu adalah yang beranak, besar cintanya, pemegang rahasia, berjiwa tegar terhadap keluarganya, patuh terhadap suaminya, pesolek bagi suaminya, menjaga diri terhadap lelaki lain, taat kepada ucapan dan perintah suaminya dan bila berdua dengan suami dia pasrahkan dirinya kepada kehendak suaminya serta tidak berlaku seolah seperti lelaki terhadap suaminya,” begitu kata Rasulullah saw. lagi.

Maka tak heran jika Asma’ binti Kharijah mewasiatkan beberapa hal kepada putrinya yang hendak menikah. “Engkau akan keluar dari kehidupan yang di dalamnya tidak terdapat keturunan. Engkau akan pergi ke tempat tidur, di mana kami tidak mengenalinya dan teman yang belum tentu menyayangimu. Jadilah kamu seperti bumi bagi suamimu, maka ia laksana langit. Jadilah kamu seperti tanah yang datar baginya, maka ia akan menjadi penyangga bagimu. Jadilah kamu di hadapannya seperti budah perempuan, maka ia akan menjadi seorang hamba bagimu. Janganlah kamu menutupi diri darinya, akibatnya ia bisa melemparmu. Jangan pula kamu menjauhinya yang bisa mengakibatkan ia melupakanmu. Jika ia mendekat kepadamu, maka kamu harus lebih mengakrabinya. Jika ia menjauh, maka hendaklah kamu menjauh darinya. Janganlah kami menilainya kecuali dalam hal-hal yang baik saja. Dan janganlah kamu mendengarkannya kecuali kamu menyimak dengan baik dan jangan kamu melihatnya kecuali dengan pandangan yang menyejukan.”

9. Realistis dalam menuntut hak dan melaksanakan kewajiban

Salah satu sifat terpuji seorang wanita yang patut dicintai seorang lelaki shalih adalah qana’ah. Bukan saja qana’ah atas segala ketentuan yang Allah tetapkan dalam Al-Qur’an, tetapi juga qana’ah dalam menerima pemberian suami. “Sebaik-baik istri adalah apabila diberi, dia bersyukur; dan bila tak diberi, dia bersabar. Engkau senang bisa memandangnya dan dia taat bila engkau menyuruhnya.” Karena itu tak heran jika acapkali melepas suaminya di depan pintu untuk pergi mencari rezeki, mereka berkata, “Jangan engkau mencari nafkah dari barang yang haram, karena kami masih sanggup menahan lapar, tapi kami tidak sanggup menahan panasnya api jahanam.”

Kata Rasulullah, “Istri yang paling berkah adalah yang paling sedikit biayanya.” (Ahmad, Al-Hakim, dan Baihaqi dari A’isyah r.a.)

Tapi, “Para wanita mempunyai hak sebagaimana mereka mempunyai kewajiban menurut kepantasan dan kewajaran,” begitu firman Allah swt. di surah Al-Baqarah ayat 228. Pelayanan yang diberikan seorang istri sebanding dengan jaminan dan nafkah yang diberikan suaminya. Ini perintah Allah kepada para suami, “Berilah tempat tinggal bagi perempuan-perempuan seperti yang kau tempati. Jangan kamu sakiti mereka dengan maksud menekan.” (At-Thalaq: 6)

10. Menolong suami dan mendorong keluarga untuk bertakwa

Istri yang shalihah adalah harta simpanan yang sesungguhnya yang bisa kita jadikan tabungan di dunia dan akhirat. Iman Tirmidzi meriwayatkan bahwa sahabat Tsauban mengatakan, “Ketika turun ayat ‘walladzina yaknizuna… (orang yang menyimpan emas dan perak serta tidak menafkahkannya di jalan Allah), kami sedang bersama Rasulullah saw. dalam suatu perjalanan. Lalu, sebagian dari sahabat berkata, “Ayat ini turun mengenai emas dan perak. Andaikan kami tahu ada harta yang lebih baik, tentu akan kami ambil”. Rasulullah saw. kemudian bersabda, “Yang lebih utama lagi adalah lidah yang berdzikir, hati yang bersyukur, dan istri shalihah yang akan membantu seorang mukmin untuk memelihara keimanannya.”

11. Mengerti kelebihan dan kekurangan suaminya

Nailah binti Al-Fafishah Al-Kalbiyah adalah seorang gadis muda yang dinikahkan keluarganya dengan Utsman bin Affan yang berusia sekitar 80 tahun. Ketika itu Utsman bertanya, “Apakah kamu senang dengan ketuaanku ini?” “Saya adalah wanita yang menyukai lelaki dengan ketuaannya,” jawab Nailah. “Tapi ketuaanku ini terlalu renta.” Nailah menjawab, “Engkau telah habiskan masa mudamu bersama Rasulullah saw. dan itu lebih aku sukai dari segala-galanya.”

12. Pandai bersyukur kepada suami

Rasulullah saw. bersabda, “Allah tidak akan melihat kepada seorang istri yang tidak bersyukur (berterima kasih) kepada suaminya, sedang ia sangat membutuhkannya.” (An-Nasa’i).

13. Cerdas dan bijak dalam menyampaikan pendapat

Siapa yang tidak suka dengan wanita bijak seperti Ummu Salamah? Setelah Perjanjian Hudhaibiyah ditandatangani, Rasulullah saw. memerintahkan para sahabat untuk bertahallul, menyembelih kambing, dan bercukur, lalu menyiapkan onta untuk kembali pulang ke Madinah. Tetapi, para sabahat tidak merespon perintah itu karena kecewa dengan isi perjanjian yang sepertinya merugikan pihak kaum muslimin.

Rasulullah saw. menemui Ummu Salamah dan berkata, “Orang Islam telah rusak, wahai Ummu Salamah. Aku memerintahkan mereka, tetapi mereka tidak mau mengikuti.”

Dengan kecerdasan dalam menganalisis kejadian, Ummu Salamah mengungkapkan pendapatnya dengan fasih dan bijak, “Ya Rasulullah, di hadapan mereka Rasul merupakan contoh dan teladan yang baik. Keluarlah Rasul, temui mereka, sembelihlah kambing, dan bercukurlah. Aku tidak ragu bahwa mereka akan mengikuti Rasul dan meniru apa yang Rasul kerjakan.”

Subhanallah, Ummu Salamah benar. Rasulullah keluar, bercukur, menyembelih kambing, dan melepas baju ihram. Para sahabat meniru apa yang Rasulullah kerjakan. Inilah berkah dari wanita cerdas lagi bijak dalam menyampaikan pendapat. Wanita seperti inilah yang patut mendapat cinta dari seorang lelaki yang shalih

Wednesday 28 October 2009

Sampai bila kita nk mencarut?

Post kali ini ditulis berdasarkan keadaan semasa. Saya sebagai manusia biasa pun pernah mencarut. Tetapi sekurang-kurangnya, saya tidak jadikannya sebagai bahan rutin yang dikeluarkan dari mulut anugerah ALLAH.


Mulut ini dicipta oleh Allah adalah untuk mengatakan perkataan baik seperti membaca quran berzikir, berkata benar dan sebagainya. Mencarut bukan benda yang main-main, ALLAH sangat membenci orang yang suka mencarut. Malah Rasululullah sendiri pernah bersabda dalam hadith di dalam sahih Muslim :


Diriwayatkan daripada Abdullah Ibnu Mas’ud r.a katanya: Rasulullah s.a.w bersabda: Bukan dari golongan kami orang yang menampar pipinya, mengoyak-ngoyak saku bajunya atau berdoa dengan doa orang-orang jahiliah


Berdoa dengan doa orang-orang jahiliyah yang dimaksudkan di hadith tersebut ialah mencarut. Bayangkanlah kebencian rasulullah terhadap orang-orang yang mencarut sehinggakan baginda tidak mengaku umatnya. Mampukah kita selamat diakhirat kelak tanpa mendapat label sebagai seorang umat rasulullah.


Cukupkah amalan kita untuk masuk ke syurga jika rasulullah tak mengaku kita sebagai umat? Syafaat (privillege) umat rasulullah amat besar di akhirat kelak, maka rugilah kita sebagai umat rasulullah secara automatik, tidak diakui oleh rasulullah sebagai umatnya.


"ELEH..MACAM LA KO TAK PERNAH MENCARUT..." TAPI..PERNAH TAK KO FIKIR NAK BERUBAH??

"Macam siot?"

Pernah guna tak perkataan ni?

Ok, semua orang pernah mencarut. Saya setuju. Saya pun sama. Tak kira la walaupun dah ubah perkataan tu. Dari sial, jadi siot. Dari babi, jadi kambing. Tapi niatnya apa? Nak mencarut kan. Haha. Jangan deny.


Kadang-kadang kita ni bukan mencarut sangat. Bukan habit. Tapi bila kita di sekeliling orang yang dah biasa mencarut, kita pun terasa nak mencarut. Carut rasa cool. Rasa part of the conversation.

Kadang-kadang dalam situasi tak ada orang mencarut, adrenaline pun rasa kurang. Tak rasa nak mencarut pun. Boleh pulak kan?


So? Adakah itu bermakna kita mencarut sebab mengikut persekitaran? Satu kesimpulan yang salah! Kita mencarut sebab kita nak mencarut. Tak payah la kita salahkan surrounding ni. Memang sendiri nak mencarut, kisah apa dengan sekeliling kan?


"RILEKS LA..MENCARUT JE.." HMM..BOLEH PLAK MACAM 2...


Mencarut boleh jadi dalam berbagai bentuk, boleh jadi dalam bentuk percakapan bahkan untuk zaman yang serba canggih, internet dan komputer ini, penulisan di blog ataupon di laman2 web sosial seperti Facebook dan sebagainya menjadi media untuk mereka meluahkan perasaan mereka. Semakin lama semakin mudah untuk kita mencarut. Sehinggakan seorang yang bisu, buta pon boleh mencarut.


Ingatlah sahabat, perbuatan yang keji dan terkutuk ini tak sepatutnya ada pada kita sebagai umat islam dan umat rasulullah. Hidup kita takkan menjadi berkat jika kita dibenci. Bukan hanya dibenci orang, malah ALLAH dan RasulNya pon membencinya. Mana lagi ruang kita nak cari untuk mencari keberkatan?


Dari keberkatan lah kita akan dapat kebahagiaan dunia dan diakhirat, kebahagiaan rumahtangga. Masakan isteri atau suami kita menyukai kita mencarut? selesa dengan cara hidup kita dengan mencarut? Kebahagiaan melalui perkataan carutan? Ada ke? Fikirkanlah wahai sahabatku.


SEDAPNYA MENCARUT...TAPI.....APA FAEDAH??

Memang sedap dan puas hati bila kita mencarut. Saya sendiri pun tak menafikannya. Malah saya pun pernah merasainya. Tapi kebaikannya hanya terbatas setakat itu sahaja. Malah keburukannya berganda-ganda banyaknya.

Tak perlu disebutkan lagi keburukan, anda sendiri dapat fikir. Masing-masing berpelajaran tinggi. Tambahan pula, banyak keburukan telah saya sebutkan samada secara langsung atau tidak di awal artikel ini.

Syaitan tak pernah putus asa dalam menggoda kita untuk melakukan perkara yang dilarang. Ingatlah, syaitan lebih senang dan suka hidup bersama mereka yang mengikuti godaan mereka.

Dibenci Allah, Rasul dan masyarakat tetapi disukai syaitan? Adakah itu pilihan kita? Jika itulah pilihan kita, terpulanglah.

Jadi, sahabat-sahabat yang membaca artikel ini, marilah kita berubah ke arah kehidupan yang lebih baik. Niat artikel ini ditulis ikhlas untuk menarik diri ini dan sahabat-sahabat sekalian supaya kembali ke jalan yang diredhai Allah.

Kita nak hidup cool, macho, chill, urban, sempoi, chic or wutever term boleh, tapi ada batasannya. Saya sendiri pun suke kehidupan sempoi2 ni. Bak kate Mawi, dunia, dunia jugak akhirat jangan lupe bro. Please lah berubah jangan jadikanya sebagai rutin.


KESIMPULAN YANG MAKIN TERSIMPUL...

Penulisan ni tidak ditujukan kepada seseorang yang spesifik, malah untuk semua pembaca, saya pasti semua orang pasti pernah mencarut samada sengaja atau tidak. Saya sendiri pon pernah. Saya mengaku. If ade yang tak puas hati or nak berbincang, saya sangat alu2kan..

Sebelum mencarut ni jadi habit, baiklah kita cuba kawal. Sebenarnya post ni untuk diri sendiri gak. walaupun tak direct mencarut, still? So, jom kita lancarkan kempen berbahasa baik-baik ;)


~Mencarut Membahayakan Mulut..Silap-Silap Kena Lempang~

Sunday 25 October 2009

Youth is The most value Asset

Noramin bin Mahamad Nor
October 25, 2009


I wonder why nowadays, many students will hate their teachers or lecturer if lecturer or teachers punish them. That is normal when we as the students. Why so people do not want follow the rules that had been created? I know the rules was been created by human, but why that rules was created? That question will ask by some of student from school. The rules had been created because want to protect student from others bad things and want students become discipline. The government said that, youth is government asset. This statement show that our government do not want their asset become corrupted nor had depreciation value. That is why government created the rules so that all the students will follow.

Now I want specific in university life. University students should follow the Act 173. This act explains what student should do and do not. What I can look in my observation, university student nowadays lack of discipline and lack of understanding toward the rules that student should follow. When the security guard give compound to them, then the student become angry. Students should not be angry of those things because there is their duty to do that. Before I enter to this UiTM, I work as part time security guard. Therefore, I know what security guard feel if student hate them.

That is my point toward guard. Now I want to focus to lecturer. I give one of example. One my senior said something about this lecturer. He said that the lecturer failed him. He said that, he only does not come only to one test. I feel so curious about that. This is because I feel like that lecturer is very good. I like his style of teaching. He likes to push student to think and understanding by their own. What he did was right. When I think back, I was the university student, why I should become like school student those only need teachers to give everything? As the university student, I should work hard to get something. Then I already get what I want. What I want to state in this blog is we cannot judge our lecturer or teachers. We need to think who we are. We are only the normal student that need their knowledge so that we can become the student that have all the skills that needed by our government.

I hope that, we will become the most value asset for our country. We will become the future leaders. So, do not waste our time for loafing or regret what had happen in past. Lets bygone go bygone, our future is straightaway in front of us.

3 Weeks More

I have 3 weeks more before all my final paper is finish. In this 3 more final weeks. I do not have money to buy food. I think about 2 days I never ate anything. I think I can go for another 3 weeks. I hope so.

When asking me where is my money. My father give 200 for me n my sister give 50 for me

100 for motorcycle- need change tube, change black oil, fuel, change gear, change spark and else.

150- for eat- my mom said. just eat don't hold your hunger so RM10 a day for meal (7 days - 70RM)
RM50- for assignment and final project (ETR)

RM30 for my body shampoo, milk, milo, sugar, oat, and all the others things.

so that's where is my money is gone.

why student always make grammar mistakes?

. 1 They are not ready yet

There is a lot of evidence to suggest that language learners, like native speaker children, pick up grammar points and stop making mistakes with them in a very predetermined order. For example, third person s mistakes (I do/ he does) tend to persist in both. If this is the problem (if indeed you think of it as a problem), the only solution is patience!

2. They don't realise it's the same grammar

Although you may be surprised when students who have finally stopped saying "He has to goes" still say "He must goes" because both should be infinitives, it may be that the students consciously or subconsciously don't put the two pieces of grammar together as one. The best solution would be to work on making the points as closely associated in students' heads as possible, e.g. doing a lesson on all uses of infinitives, teaching a very general rule, or even pairing questions up where they have to fill the gaps in pairs of sentences with the same word.

3. They are overloaded

If the students are making elementary errors with something they usually don't, it could be because their brains are busier than usual with other things, e.g. coping with the rules of the language game, digesting the latest language point, sorting out a logic or problem solving puzzle, or concentrating on another point like their pronunciation. Learning to cope with many different demands on the brain at the same time is a good thing, as it is what you need to do with the language in real life, but make sure all language input and correction are left to a time when they can concentrate on the language more.

4. They are overusing one point for good reasons

In both native and non-native speakers, the process of learning a new grammar point seems to often include a period of overextending its use. For example, even people who know the Simple Past well will start using the Past Perfect in situations they would have used (correctly) the Simple Past until the day they studied the new tense . Apart from understanding that this is part of the process and being patient, ways to tackle this could be to give them lots of controlled practice of the new grammar point, come back to the original grammar point they confuse it with a few weeks or months later, and concentrate on correcting one area of confusion at a time.

5. They are having a bad day

Anyone who has ever lived in a foreign country can tell you there are days when all your language skills seem to disappear. Again, this is something they will need to be able to cope with eventually. Apart from trying to take away their tiredness and take their minds of their troubles by giving them something easy to do or doing a physical warmer, maybe the best approach is just to be less demanding on that day. This is also a good opportunity to practice your skills in spotting the difference between little slip ups they would usually get right and are probably best ignored on "one of those days", and things they really don't know that are more worth some correction and explanation.

6. They don't think that grammar point is important

Consciously or subconsciously, native and non-native speakers tend to put a low priority on stopping mistakes with language that does not convey a lot of information- i.e. if they can make that mistake and still be understood putting more effort into it can wait until later. This natural reaction can actually be a sign that they are right and you should move quickly on from the Present Simple to giving them the stacks of vocabulary they will need to reach the next level. There is a chance, though, that they are just missing the way in which they could be misunderstood. The general principle here is to include possible misunderstandings in all error correction. If you can't do so, maybe that is a sign that grammar point can wait until later.

7. That point is more difficult for them than it seems

The reason why students pick up some grammar points more quickly than the teacher expects and others more slowly is often connected to their first language, e.g. confusions between different uses of similar forms or grammatical forms that don't have an equivalent in L1. Even teachers who know the language the students speak can be miss out on particular aspects of this, such as students who speak a particular dialect or different language at home, or grammatical forms that only educated speakers of that language would be familiar with. Responses to this include rearranging the syllabus to leave more difficult points for particular students until later, concentrating on the particular areas of difficulty they have when the time comes, and approaching the same grammar point several different ways with gaps in between to let their subconscious get to work.

8. It's an attempt to be informal

It may be that in the student's native language grammatical forms are dropped when they are speaking informally, in a similar way to "No way!" or "Long time no see" in English. Common examples that students sometimes reproduce in English include dropping the subject or using a different tense. Although this is usually subconscious, it can be reinforced by the language they hear in English pop music and in certain English dialects. Depending on their level, you might be able to do a lesson on substituting these with informal forms we really do use or even doing a whole lesson on the more general grammatical changes between informal speech and formal speech or writing.

9. Accuracy is not their priority

Again, there is a chance they are right on this one and teaching them how to express something they couldn't at all with a new grammatical form, new vocabulary, or new functional language might be better than spending more time trying to root out basic errors. If, however, you think lack of accuracy is the main reason they are not being understood, are not ready for the next level, cannot transfer speaking skills into writing skills or will do badly on a test, it is worth letting them know. Clearly showing what effect mistakes can have on communication with dialogues with communication breakdowns etc can also help.

10. They just have that kind of personality

Just as it is no surprise when some perfectionists become obsessive about getting their sentences right, there are some people whose outgoing nature, slapdash character or hyperactive speaking style just seems to make it difficult for them to stop for a minute and pay attention to what they are saying. Although this is not the only example of a situation when students' language skills could be best improved by them changing their personality, this is no easier to do here than in any other case! Ways to get them to concentrate on accuracy more include making error correction fun with grammar auctions etc, giving them an easy speaking task they only need simple language for and can't get distracted from, and forcing them to slow down to speak to someone who is a lower level (either in reality or by their partner playing that role).

Saturday 24 October 2009

Pre-Graduate Night






Last night I went to Hotel Shuen Ipoh. My bus was the last bus that go at there. After I arrive I saw many people there, most of them take picture at that hotel, so i am.

The event start very late. I think is about 9 p.m. Me and my friend feel so hungry because we don't ate anything before coming to this hotel. I feel no really worth to go there because it very expensive.

For all, the event quite ok. I feel so tired after that event.

Thursday 22 October 2009

Last Class for Bel 313

Today is last class for Bel 313. I feel very sad. Five semester I had learnt Bel in this UiTM, I think only this class I feel like enjoying in learning in English. Trust me, if all the lecturer is like Teech Airil. I think all the malay student will try to improve their English. I guess I also need to improve my English. I need to find out why I still can not detect grammar mistake. Anyway thank you very much teech for make me feels like Learning English is fun and enjoyable. Thank you wants again.

My dream is to become lecturer so that i Teach all the students. I think that's is my ability. I able to teach someone else. I hope one day I will become like you.

Hope you in safe Journey to New Zealand. Hope you finish you Phd on time. I hope we will meet again.

Tuesday 20 October 2009

Last Class

This is last week. Tomorrow is the last class for me. It means that, I will not longer to study in that class. After this I will be goes for practical training. This will be a sad moment. Next week will be Final Exam. After the final exam I will not meet all my friends about 5 months. I will miss them. All the moment that we through for 5 semesters I will remember in my whole life. Life at UiTM is more precious memory that I ever had. I will miss this UiTM. This UiTM gave a good and bad moment to me. I will miss all the lecturer that taught me from part 1 until part 5.
I hope I will get a chance to apologies to all lecturers.

Saturday 17 October 2009

I already finish Bel 313 Common Test

Yesterday, I took Bel 313 Common test. My comment is about the test. Actually the comment quite tough if you don't read carefully it will trap you and you will loose mark. For those who not answer yet that test, please master the skill. You will not understand and will not answer the question given clearly if still can't master the critical thinking skill. Honestly some of the question really make me confusing. I don't know it wrong or right. What I need to do is, wait the result in semester break. I hope I score A for that bel. At Least A- . What ever the grade teech give to me. I just accept. I think that's my fault because I not seriously study about this Bel. I think I really work hard for this Bel. I hope my effort to this subject will give the best result..

Hopefully ..

Assignment

After finish assignment Law, now I want to proceed with another two assignment which is quite difficult to me. OB and ETR. and i have another 2 TEst that I need to study. Especially Bel. I hope that I can score good grade for Bel313, I also want get the good grade for Law, it will show me how good I am in memorize that fact. Suitable or not for me to continue study in LAW.

now I want to continue to study BEl and edit assignment law...

Thursday 15 October 2009

1 Week More for Final

Now I realize next week will be the final week for class. Then I will focus more on final. This is because this is my final semester to learn for diploma. After this I will go for practical training that give more challenging to me. What I had learn from semester 1 until semester 5 I will apply it in industrial practical training. My schedule very pack for weekend, on Friday I discuss of Behavior in Organization, Saturday will be discussion for Law, and Sunday will be discuss for Fundamental of Entrepreneurship. This will the busy day ever. I hope I can have time to study Bel 313. This is only chance for me to get A. At least A- hopefully I get best grade for this Bel. My another mission is to explain to all my friend and to help them understanding about this course. I want to help them to get best grade.

For Teech. What I want to say is. Before I meet you, my perception is you is really angry person and very fussy about assignment and giving marks to student. I wonder how he know to psycho students, because his style of teaching is same like my teacher in my previous school. He likes to psycho student to participate in learning. After I make some research on teech, now I know Teech have Certificate in Psychology. That's why he know to use that kind of teaching. It really work for student like me. I really enjoy this course. Thanks to him I became famous from another group because suddenly the people from another group want me to teach them. I don't know what teech said about me to another group. This is because the person who never admonish me before suddenly ask me to teach her.

I think that's all what i want to type. I want to continue study for my test.

Wednesday 14 October 2009

Pre-closing for BEL 313

Today 15 of Oct. Just now in my class had Pre-closing for my course bel 313-Introduction of critical thinking. Actually I feel like this course really tough, but I able to finish all the assignment that given. The assignment that I really like is Forum. This is because, forum teach me to apply the critical thinking skill. Critical thinking skill is important to me if I want to be manager, lawyer or lecturer. It will involve critical thinking. After I learnt critical thinking skills, now I able to argue someone opinion and thought. Seriously I not confident to argue someone opinion, but now I feel more confident in arguing. Thank you to my lecturer that teach me how to use this skill. I will apply this skill in my life. learning critical thinking is a gift for me. I feel really lucky when I learnt this course. It will help when I doing my MUET next year. I really hope that will get at least Band 4 for MUET. I want to beat my friend because he got band 5 for MUET. For my future plan, I want to continue my study in Law or in same course. This only the way that I can show to my elder sister that I not stupid and useless that only waste my parents money. I think that's all what I want to say. Next day I will do my common test. I hope I can pass all the subject and be able to doing my practical training next semester.

I think that's all for today.

continue for next day........

soalan TEST yg ssh giler

Mmg akan terkejut aku td...bila dpt soalan organization behavior tu...mmg sgt2 png pala...mmg terkejut gak la kuar soalan yg mcm tu...kuar lak soalan yg jrang2 kuar...n jnis point yg org akan anggp x pnting..tp...tgok2 kuar yg itu...mmg aku xtau pe yg aku jwb...aku mmg goreng la td..hahaha..pling kesian member aku sorg ni..yana...dia smpai xtau nk jwb apa...aku tgok sblh td...dia mmg byk gile kosong...yg pling kesian...soalan yg aku tgok agak sng skit...sbb aku dh hafal mnda tu...tp dia xle nk bt....sian gak la...bkn aku ja yg kta mcm tu...sbb org yg slalu dpt pointer tggi n 4 flat pn...png pala aku togk ...dorg pn pning nk jwb...mcm mn la aku ni?? aku harap2 smua paper aku lpas...aku nk practical kat rmah aku tu..xnk la practical kat sni...

Monday 12 October 2009

Result of my personality TEST

My Personality

Neuroticism

67%
Extraversion

66%
Openness To Experience

61%
Agreeableness

85%
Conscientiousness


You rarely get angry and it takes a lot to make you angry, however you are sensitive about what others think of you. Your concern about rejection and ridicule cause you to feel shy and uncomfortable around others. You are easily embarrassed and often feel ashamed. Your fears that others will criticize or make fun of you are exaggerated and unrealistic, but your awkwardness and discomfort may make these fears a self-fulfilling prophecy. You are not prone to spells of energetic high spirits. You prefer facts over fantasy and are more interested in what is happening in the real word. You find helping other people genuinely rewarding and are generally willing to assist those who are in need. You find that doing things for others is a form of self-fulfillment rather than self-sacrifice, however you are willing to take credit for good things that you do but you don't often talk yourself up much. You have a strong sense of duty and obligation, and feel a moral obligation to do the right thing.

I feel Stress and Tension

I have 2 weeks left before final. This week I have two test and one quiz. Quiz will be this morning 11 a.m. I feel so scare to answer that quiz because, if I still not perform well in that quiz. The lecturer will mad of me. So I need to be more alert about this quiz. This quiz quite hard to memorize because it involve human resource. The last chapter of this quiz learn about human resource that I not really interested to learn that. I still needs to learn this course because It will show how good I am in this program.

Sunday 4 October 2009

FORUM

why i feel so Miserable and I had little bit confusing in this forum. I don't know what I exactly understand. People always like to asking me about something that I not sure. I'm not cleaver in this critical thinking, but I can help people who need help in this critical thinking. This is a critical thinking course so you must think critically. Don't lazy to think because you will regret soon. Critical thinking is fun. You can Manipulate someone opinion by using your fact and understanding. This skill is really important if you want become a leader. I want become leader, so I will no simply accept what people say. I will try to argue about that. People will make a fallacies if don't have any proof and fact. I think I need to master it because my future is hand on it. Learn critical thinking is fun and as gift for me.

Saturday 3 October 2009

Assignment 3- Script for forum moderator

Bel 313 – Introduction of Critical Thinking
Assignment 3- FORUM
Script for Forum Moderator
Assalamualaikum everyone and good afternoon. Welcome to my ________________. This forum program will talk about something controversial. So, do not waste our time. Now, I will introduce to all audient about our panel. Besides me is ____________________________ he/she is the ________________________
Panel no 2 named _____________________________________ he/she is a __________, and follow by panel no 3, he/she name _______________________ He/she is a __________________________________ and the last one is panel no 4 his/her name _____________________________ he/she is a ______________________

Today topic is _________________________________________________

As we know _________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________________
So, do not waste our time, let we start with panel no one. So, Mr/Mrs/Miss/Dato’/Datuk/Datuk Sri/Tan Sri/Tun. My first question is_____________________________________________________________?
Can you explain a little bit about this _________________________________
_____ thank you _______________ for that opinion and explanation_______

(After panel 1 talk about his/her opinion and explanation make a simple conclusion and continue with panel numbers 2, 3 and 4)
*After first round, make an open question section
After we heard about all panel opinion and explanation now let us we continue with our forum with question by the audience.
(The audience will ask the question and moderator needs to write down what the audience asking)
So, Mr/Mrs/Miss/Dato’/Datuk/Datuk Sri/Tan Sri/Tun, can you explain about the question that been ask by Mr_________________
* Make SIMPLE conclusion each answer from Panel.
* After question section is over conclude all the opinion and answer from all Panel.
Thank you for watching______________ see you again and good afternoon.
-END-
Tips for moderator

Time Divided of this method
4- minutes for introduction
4 minutes for each Panel 4 X 4 = 16/ 4 X 3 = 12 minutes
This is for first round.
Another 10 minutes left for 4 Panels/14 minutes left for 3 Panels is in question section
3 minutes is provide for each question and answer. 3x2=6 minutes
Another 4 minutes is for moderator to conclude all the opinion and answer.


I think that's all that i can help

Thursday 1 October 2009

My Heath getting worse

I don't know why. My health getting worse. I had cold fever for 2 weeks. I keep coughing for 1 week. I feel so tired of this. This coughing make me feel so pain especially it my chest and my stomach. when I coughing I also feel the back pain. I already finish up 2 bottles of Coughing medicine, but it seen don't work. It seen like all the medicine that I eat don't have any affect.

My Birthday

30 September 2009. That day was my birthday. In 12.00 a.m sharp someone sent a message to wish happy birthday to. I really have that message was sent by my girlfriend, but i wasn't. That message was sent by my classmate. He is the first person. Follow by my ex-girlfriend named Tasha. Then follow my others class mate that together wish birthday to me. I feel so happy when there wish to me. I feel so unhappy because my Girlfriend is not the first person who it. I just call her and she said that she was forgot about my birthday. I feel so angry with her. My thought, remember someone birthday is really important so it will show how he/she remember and care about you. This is why i feel so sad about this matter. Even my mother don't wish my birthday. I feel like i been forgotten by my own mother. I feel so sad. I can't do nothing in this day. I was hold my mobile phone hope that my mother and father will wish to me. I think I just wait something that will not happen at all. This is was the best and the worse birthday ever.